Seek out a partner who mirrors the same values as your own.
For e.g, if you're anti-racist, don't date somebody who is racist.
You would be constantly arguing, debating and fighting, because your views, opinions and ideas are totally opposite to one another.
Negative and positive do not work together.
Do not settle down with somebody you don't have any chemistry with, who doesn't respect you, who makes you feel worthless, who plays mind games, who dictates your every move, who never lets you be alone to think or do your own thing....
Do you really want that?
Accepting somebody for who they're is only beneficial when your own values, sanity, self worth and rights are not being attacked.
Everybody has flaws, that is true. But, you must know what you're willing to put up with and what you're not. It is for your own sake and theirs.
Do not seek out a partner if you yourself are not prepared to uphold your end of the bargain either.
What do they say? It takes TWO to TANGO.
Don't be the man or woman that only puts in 20 percent, while your partner is putting in 100 percent.
There is no harmony in that.
Only disharmony. There is No balance.
There must be balance.
Disharmony is unhealthy and chaotic.
Disharmony will only lead to a short relationship.
Even if you're still together 10 years into the future, the relationship would no longer be there (unless you both developed a true bond). It would have died long ago. Comfort would have set in, through being content, fearing change and well... good old humam stubbornness.
Did you know that is how a lot of modern day marriages function?
And, it is not healthy for relationships to have arguments at all. That is a myth.
The truth is, if you and your partner are communicating with one another, have lots of rapport and are capable of listening to each other without interruptong. You will be able to discuss what you're willing to tolerate and not tolerate with one another, without any arguments ever taking place.
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